Category: About Our Family

The Last 4 Months!

So, once Marissa was born things got a little busy… I don’t understand why. ¬†ūüôā ¬†Anyways, Marissa has been doing great! ¬†Here is a quick update on the last 4 months.

  • August 2nd – Marissa is born!! ¬†We got a call from Marissa’s birthmother on Sunday night August 1st… she was on her way to the hospital! ¬†On Monday morning around 9:05am I got a picture texted to me of our new baby girl! ¬†I had just arrived at work – and promptly left at about 9:10am ūüôā ¬†There was NO way I could work anymore. ¬†I was so excited! ¬†I went home and started calling people, sending out her picture and who knows what else. ¬†We had to wait to get the OK to come to the hospital… that was the hardest wait!! ¬†We finally got the call in the afternoon on August 3rd. ¬†We were over there within 30 minutes. ¬†My heart felt an overwhelming love for our daughter! ¬†I remember thinking – WOW… what a miracle! ¬†This picture is of our first visit with Marissa.

  • August 4th – The day Marissa was scheduled to come home. ¬†This was the most exciting, but also very emotional day for all. ¬†We met the caseworker at the hospital at noon that day. ¬†We signed some paperwork while the birthmother’s caseworker was working with her to sign paperwork. ¬†We then went in the room. ¬†I’m not going to share a lot about this out of respect for those involved (if you have questions about let me know and I can talk to you via email), but this was a very emotional day for all involved. ¬†Once we got home the visits began! ¬†We were overwhelmed with all the people that wanted to meet Marissa! ¬†Those first few days were surreal. ¬†We were so exhausted, but didn’t care. ¬†Tim took a couple weeks off which was a life saver. ¬†That would have been tough on my own that’s for sure. ¬†All we did for hours and hours on end is watch her… we watched her smile in her sleep, make faces and cry. ¬†All so magical!

  • September 17 – The adoption was going to court on this day. ¬†Bethany Christian Services had not gotten signed paperwork from the birthfather, so this was a very nervous day for us. ¬†If the birthfather showed up for this, we were told that it would get rescheduled and arguments would be heard for him contesting the adoption on a different day. ¬†We did not go to this… so I was waiting around at home… carrying my phone everywhere I went. ¬†We got a call about 3:30pm… she could not say the words quick enough. ¬†He did not show up!! ¬†Everything was final and Marissa was ours!!

  • September 18-Now – We have 2 visits with our case worker (one we already had at the beginning of the month – the other will be at the beginning of March). ¬†Once those are complete, we will receive a birth certificate and final papers. ¬†We are so enjoying our new daughter! ¬†She is the most beautiful little girl that seems to always smile at everyone. ¬†She just makes our hearts melt each day.

For those of you that are wondering – this is an open adoption. ¬†So, we have visits with Marissa’s birthmom every 3 months or so. ¬†We send pictures and updates every other week (unless things are really busy). ¬†We love her birthmom and are so excited to have her be a part of Marissa’s life too. ¬†Last month we were able to attend her wedding. ¬†We felt honored to be a part of that day. ¬†We got some great pictures for Marissa to have some day.

Our Family Story

In case some of you don’t know what brought us to adoption I wanted to share.¬† In 2008 Tim and I began trying to have children.¬† It took over a year for us to get pregnant the first time.¬† Ten weeks into the pregnancy I had a miscarriage.¬† This happened two more times, the last with twins.¬† It was devastating to us as we both love children and have a huge desire to have a family.¬† We spent much time praying and seeking God’s will for us to have a family.¬† He has brought us to adoption.

We’ve always talked about adoption as an option, maybe after we have our own children, but in light of the miscarriages we’ve stepped into this journey earlier than originally planned.¬† We are now very excited to be able to be a part of this process.¬† We’ve learned so much in the past year about adoption and much of which we will share with you in the months to come.

I believe that many people have a misconceptions on domestic adoption, as I had them when we started this process.¬† I’m hoping that you will get a glimpse of what domestic adoption is really like.¬† I’m also hoping you will pray for Tim and I as we begin our wait for an expectant mom to choose us.¬† I will post more things to pray about in the weeks to come.¬† Thanks for joining Tim and I in this journey through prayer!